If you are like me, you have a hard time getting mail out to your friends and loved ones because you have A LOT you want to say, and you want to say it all, and you want to say it perfectly.
I am the queen at beginning Epic letters.
And my recycling bin is full of them.
Because when do I send those epic letters? Rarely? Never? I loose the thread of it somewhere along the way- i get distracted or I need to go do something else. Always the problem is: I have bitten off more than I can chew, I am being perfectionist about my writing/ creativity, or it has simply been too long since I've talked with this person... so there is SO VERY MUCH to catch up on, or that I want to say and express.
Post is all about breaking down those steps and getting *memorable mail* in the box anyway. This is why I chose post cards, first of all, as an artist who was primarily working in greeting card sizes before... because a postcard is small, cheap, inexpensive to mail, and has a small amount of room for your message. It forces us to focus! Also postcards are what we tend to send from vacations and faraway places- it's associated with joy and freedom. So let's keep those associations going as we collect art from the artists we love, as we gather papergoods that strike our fancy and decide what image is perfect for which friends.
Post is about turning up the dial on meaningful ways to connect offline, and going easy on YOUR end, so that in time you have a wealth of enjoyable options you feel are at your command when you want to connect through the art of writing.
This Week's Helpful Tip
for More Meaningful Mail
I have encountered that one way to get mail out is to run to the opposite end of the spectrum of my expectations around the Epic Letter.
One way I have of doing that is through quotes. Now, there are many stationery companies out there that love to do this work for you. They pick and choose amazing quotes and then bombard you with a hot font and there you go- message received. But as we boil things down to their sweeter, nitty gritty parts, I wonder if receiving a hand-chosen and hand-written passage from a friend does something different in the hallways of the heart?
I have a notebook that has become filled with just such passages. And yes, there's a LOT of Rumi in there, as anybody who runs in my circles of Shamanism, nature love, self improvement, spirituality, creativity, and basically woo woo anything will encounter Rumi. He is simply wonderful. But as I began to studiously note and write things down- and yes, things I saw on memes, things I read on Pinterest or Facebook or Instagram... my sources became deeper. Then I became more attuned to wonderful passages. As i read books I would grab this and that (always writing down the author and the book title, of course!), as I scrolled or hopped from internet article to article I would grab at precious pearls. Song lyrics. Poetry. More than Rumi.
life is so very short. there is no time to waste.
bang down the doors of your own true knowing. smash your own heart
with fists of flowers. wish them freedom and fill your mouth with truth and kindness.
love first your own hunger and your wisdom and your unknowns, and never look back.
- isabel abbott
Then I started to see these beautiful writings being published by coaches, writers, and wonderful women I've been following for a while. Most notably, Isabel Abbott just published a book of words so delicious, you'll want to skip desert (or have seconds!) and Pixie Lighthorse just published a book of prayers which are, each one, humbling and quite moving. They rumble deep.
What I'm saying is- once you begin paying attention to words in this way, they'll come to you recognizing a true friend. And you'll want to hand them back out to the world! Because words, such true and beautiful words, they're like that. They come and buzz around in your heart like fireflies and then we delight in sending them off.
What better way to connect with an old friend, a long-lost love, a dear relative, a romantic partner, a sweetheart, a little one? Find some words to share that mean something to you. Words that resonate. Words that light you up. Don't let someone else write them for you- put them down on paper in your own sweet and beloved script. It will be instantly recognized in its YOUness and strike a chord in the recipient. All you need is a few lines.
And then you say: I've been thinking of you.
This reminded me of you.
You've been on my mind.
So much more to say.
Until we meet again.
...or whatever else is short and sweet and strikes your fancy.
The point is: say something. Let them know you're thinking of them. Take the time to show them you've taken the time by handwriting it out... and then boom! You did it! Throw a stamp on that baby and get it in the mail!